It is important to set proper boundaries in your outside relationships for the purpose of protecting your primary relationship from emotional promiscuity. We often think of infidelity as a physical act when the truth is it started as a breach of emotional monogamy. -Jordan Blake Michiels
Singer and songwriter Michiels aptly explains the significance of emotional commitment in a relationship. Many people associate infidelity as an act of indulging in an intimate act with someone, however, long before one could reach this level, the emotional monogamy is already violated by the cheating partner. A relationship calls for an intense psychological investment and when it is marred by infidelity, the outcomes could be devastating for a person’s mental health.
Listed below are a few warning signs which can help a person identify the violation of emotional exclusivity in a relationship through some of his or her own acts or their partner’s and thus, take imminent steps to salvage the bond and stay away from the pain that can lead to mental problems.
Getting hooked on digital devices
The excitement of a new relationship is so strong that one might always be trying to stay connected with this friend through texts, calls, multiple chat apps and even social media platforms. In this act, he or she will not be able to give enough time to the existing relationship that will certainly create distance between the two partners, leading to stress and anxiety.
Living in denial of being just friends
When two people are in a serious relationship, it is totally non-negotiable for a partner to get extra cozy with a member of the opposite sex. When such offenders are under a guilt trap of duping their partner or are seen by someone they know, they tell themselves and the others that they are just friends and that’s it.
Sudden changes in appearance
The thrill of getting involved with a new person can get so overwhelming that one might start taking good care of the self, in terms of buying new clothes, fragrances, joining a gym, eating mindfully, etc. This sudden burst of motivation to appear pleasant can alarm a partner who was after the other half’s life since ages to work on improvising his/her dressing sense and eating habits.
Sudden changes in intimacy equation
In a relationship, when one trespasses the sanctity around intimacy, one might feel too thrilled and keep looking for more opportunities to spend time with his/her friend. This might lead to a total loss of interest in getting intimate with the existing partner or one might indulge in excessive lovemaking with the partner, just out of guilt.
Saving the relationship
Oftentimes, the uninvolved partner experiences extreme depression, distress and anxiety which is usually connected with health-compromising behaviors like excessive abuse of alcohol or any drug. For some people, the disclosure of infidelity could be a traumatic event and they could develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Some people start doubting their self-worth and their self-esteem goes for a toss.
Infidelity can cause extreme guilt and depression to the betrayer as well and this might lead to termination of the affair, however, that does not do any good to the uninvolved partner. Some couples start reworking on their relationship, but both the partners get to struggle with a long-term emotional distress. Therefore, the partners must seek professional counseling, which might help them understand each other better and learn coping skills to navigate through the phases of hurt, anger, guilt, depression, acceptance and reconciliation or in extreme cases, separation.
Contact the Florida Depression Helpline experts who can help you with information on the best interventions offering a comprehensive approach to addressing the gaps in your relationship and the resulting mental distresses through well-equipped centers. Call our 24/7 helpline number (866) 267-5177 to avail the facilities of one of the best depression rehab centers in Florida. You can also chat online to know more about rehab facilities in Florida that have evidence-based plans in helping a person gain control of his/her life.