High-speed internet connectivity and ultra-sophisticated mobile phones with applications like Skype and WhatsApp have made it easier for people to connect with one other, as and when they please. These apps are mostly used for one-to-one interaction. However, when people get into social media forums like Facebook, the interaction of a person is no longer personal (except when the messenger is used), and the status and photographs are easily accessible to many other users – some wanted and some unwanted.
Relationship experts have been criticizing social media platforms like Facebook for limiting people to virtual connections when the real world connections can be more meaningful and gratifying. Furthermore, Facebook is often accused of destroying marriages because the partners are tempted to stalk each other’s profile and in this act they might come across certain aspects that can lead to a conflict or a divorce.
Listed below are some aspects related to Facebook use that can ruin a marriage:
Excessive use of Facebook: Facebook can get so addictive that after work or even during weekends, instead of spending quality with each other or going out for a movie or a drive, people might be hooked on Facebook. And the irony is that people are more anxious about getting updates about their virtual friends who could be old or present friends, relatives or acquaintances.
Too much sharing: These days, the concept of personal moments or private life is dwindling away. Be it a private anniversary party at home or a Christmas celebration, people are obsessed with posting their pictures on Facebook. People seek validation through the number of likes and comments for their pictures. The problem arises when one of the partners is not a fan of these social forums and believes in keeping the personal life to himself or herself. This difference in opinion might cause a lot of stress between the partners.
Getting back with an old flame: Facebook helps people in connecting with their old friends, teachers, distant relatives, former colleagues, etc. It feels good to reconnect with the people after so many years, but the problem might start brewing between a couple when one of the partners befriends an old flame and gradually gets too much involved with him/her. This can be a recipe for a disaster for a couple because the other partner might feel cheated and dejected.
Keeping secrets: A marriage is a sacred institution and things should be transparent between the partners. However, some people maintain multiple profiles on Facebook and they ensure that their partner is aware of only the real one. The other profiles usually have different usernames and pictures. Millions of people hide this from their partners and use these profiles mainly to flirt with the opposite sex. However, a relationship might suffer when the reality would come to the fore.
Road to recovery
Facebook not only helps connect with people, but it is also a source of news and current affairs. If used judiciously, one can learn a lot from it. However, once the foundation of a marriage is shaken due to Facebook, the partner who discovered the ugly side of the spouse can get insecure and disoriented. Consequently, problems related to trust and insecurity can creep in a relationship which can lead to other complications, including mental problems.
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